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03.29.2001: Etiquette Schmetiquette
common-sense manners
for real-world living
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Housewarming parties...
I just recently moved into an apartment that I plan to be at for some time. Is it appropriate to have an apartment warming?

Thank you, T.

A: Of course! A home is a home regardless of whether you’re paying rent or paying the mortgage. Maybe you’ve just moved into an adorable little one-bedroom (two-bedroom, studio, whatever) after months of making do in a closet-sized "abode" that was an embarrassment to live in, much less entertain guests, or maybe you’re finally settling down into a nest after years of doing the nomadic thing – whatever the case may be, it’s human instinct to want to show off your new digs to your friends. So go ahead and indulge: everyone will love the excuse for a party. 

But let me just sneak in one word of warning regarding housewarmings in general – though the Rules of Etiquette do dictate that a guest should arrive at a housewarming party bearing some sort of a gift, many, many people are completely unaware of the necessity of this social nicety. (And frankly, I don't think gift-giving should ever be mandatory at a party).

The one sure way to avoid disappointment is to realize that the joy of your friends’ presence warms the home better than any material goods ever could.

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