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If you are invited to a Bridal Shower, Bachelorette Party and the
wedding, are you required to buy a gift for each? DEBI
Between travel expenses and gift-giving, weddings have a pesky
tendency to get expensive even when youíre just a guest. And
while I hate the idea of gifts being required Ė Iíve said it
before and Iíll say it again, knowing someone gave me
something simply because it was deemed socially mandatory takes
away just a little of the niceness of the gesture Ė I also
understand that no one wants to look like a jerk because they
didnít bring a gift when every other guest has. So hereís
the lowdown on which wedding-related events dictate gifts and
which donít Ö
Bachelorette party gifts are
generally of the gag gift/saucy lingerie variety, but no one
will blink an eye if you arrive with nothing to offer except
your fun old self. Bridal showers, on the other hand, are pretty
much thrown for the express purpose of flooding the bride-to-be
with goodies, and since watching the bride ooh and ahh as she
opens each present is generally one of the highlights of the
party, itís definitely expected that you bring something.
whether youíre then required to give a wedding gift as well,
my feeling is this: the showerís for the bride, but the
weddingís for the couple, and as such, itís really not like
youíre buying a second gift for the exact same
| occasion. And
while I think itís pretty petty when I hear someone sniff
about how a guest neglected to send a wedding gift Ė because a
wedding is so not about material gain, folks! -- I also think
that itís just plain nice for you, as a friend or relative of
the bride, to present the happy newlyweds with another gift in
congratulations for their wedding, even if youíve already
gifted the bride at the shower.
What is the significance of giving wine as a housewarming gift? I saw
this in the movie, "It's a Wonderful Life" and cannot recall
the reason given when presented to the new home owners. Thank you.
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