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housewarming registry
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But
regardless of whether registering for a housewarming is
appropriate or not, you’re absolutely right that it is
generally considered to be rather a big no-no to include
registry information in an invitation to any party that you’re
throwing yourself, for all the obvious reasons. (If it’s the
new homeowner’s pals throwing the party, on the other hand,
and if you’re not opposed to housewarming registries in
general, the inclusion of registry information isn’t
considered nearly so tacky).
Still, I think it’s important to think
about intentions in cases such as these, since there’s nary a person I
know these days who hasn’t inadvertently committed at least the
occasional etiquette breach. Is your friend that’s having the
housewarming the sort who would invite someone to a housewarming party,
and then be ticked-off if the person arrived sans gift? Or has
she simply been misinformed regarding registry etiquette, and included
the information solely as a courtesy to any guests who might wish to
give a little something, rather than a not-so-subtle hint that guests
absolutely must arrive with goods in tow? In the case of the former, I’d
probably just as soon not be friends with such a petty materialist
anyway, but if there’s the chance of the latter, and if this friend
has, up until this point, proven to be a kind person and a good friend,
I’d be inclined to let the faux pas pass – this time, anyway – and
show up at the housewarming with something simple like a bottle of wine,
or a pretty houseplant … but most decidedly not anything off that
registry.
wedding
gift quandaries ...
Q: Hello! I have a question. My
husband and I went to a wedding this weekend in which he was an
usher. We went through a lot to attend this wedding. It was 3
hours away from where we live. We had to get a babysitter for
our son who is 2 for 3 days. We spent $650, aside from the gift,
on his tux, hotel fees, drinks, food and so on. To a one income
family with a toddler that is a lot of money. We also had a
check in a card waiting for them. Well that night I forgot to
leave the card. We would never ever not give someone a gift. And
after the $650 we spent what is another $100. I knew it was rude
of me but a friend you just got done doing all of that for will
surely understand. I had the card all ready to send in the mail
the next day (tomorrow). Well this evening we got a call from
our "friend" telling us that we are rude and
distasteful. After explaining to him over and over he continued
to yell at us.
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So there
it is the end of our friendship. We are so shocked and hurt by
this. We are sending them the card tomorrow along with a letter
telling them how we feel. We would like your opinion on this
please. Are we the ones in the wrong? ---
Amanda
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