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1.
Get
an invitation, send a gift.
This is a simple rule really, and holds true regardless of
whether or not you’re able to actually attend the event. Yes, that’s
right, you heard correctly: declining an invitation does not excuse you
from having to do a little shopping.
If the couple deemed you important enough in their lives to
request your lovely presence at their celebration, it’s basic courtesy
to bless bride and groom with a present.
As for how much to spend, there are no rules -- spend as much as
you feel able to afford, but remember: ultimately, it’s not the cost,
but the thought that goes into the gift. Get them something you know
that they’ll like, be it practical – housewares, linens, and the
usual newlywed necessaries – or, if you’re very close to the couple,
more personal. If you’ve more time than money at this point in your
life, get creative with your present (a nice photo you took of the
couple way back when, enlarged, matted and nicely framed, of course,
maybe a handmade scrapbook). 2.
Ask
about the registry.
It’s not considered at all proper for a wedding invitation to include
any mention of where the couple has registered for gifts. Yes, it’s a
little silly, but you, as the guest, are nonetheless expected to take it
upon yourself to inquire about whether a registry exists. Nine times out
of ten, the answer will be yes, and should that be the case, breathe a
deep sigh of relief: your search for the perfect gift will then be as
simple as hopping on over to the store (or even better, the store’s
website), looking up the couple’s registry list, then deciding to buy
any one of the myriad goodies which bride and groom have so thoughtfully
taken the time to let you know they really
want to receive. Now, those of you who pride yourselves on your
creativity may break out in hives at the mere mention of anything so
lacking in personal expression as plucking a gift off a list, but
here’s the truth: unless you’re 100% sure that your tastes are
99.999% in line with the happy couple’s, buying off the registry is
the best way to ensure that your money will be going towards a gift that
the couple absolutely adores. 3.
Don’t procrastinate.
Don’t wait until the night before the wedding to try and buy something
off the registry. Nothing, I guarantee nothing, will be left to buy, and
you’ll be left scrambling around with no guidance as to what sort of a
gift would actually be useful to the bride and groom. You can even send
a gift as early as the day after you receive the wedding invitation, if
you’re super-duper, crazy-scary on top of things. For the rest of us,
two weeks prior to the big event is a good time to get that
gift-shopping done. If, on the other hand, you’re a total flake and
don’t get around to buying the gift in time for the actual event, be
aware that most stores will keep the bride and groom’s registry in
their system for at least half a year. Send a gift as soon as possible
– late is, after all, better than never. 4.
Put the gift in the post. There’s
really no sense in lugging presents to the big day itself.
After you’ve selected that perfect gift, preferably sometime
well before the wedding of course, have the gift sent directly to the
bride and groom. This saves the couple the difficulty of having to
figure out how to transport all those big boxes from the wedding site
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